It seems like throughout my whole life, people have been telling me I need to be more confident. I’ve grown to almost hate that word! And I hear it everywhere: Confidence is sexy, confidence is key, guys are attracted to confident women…okay, I get it! But how does a person become confident if they’ve never really experienced it?
I’ve explored the concept of confidence, and the dictionary definition is kind of boring: belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities. What does that really mean and how does that translate into an actual experience?
I was lying in bed the other morning, in between sleeping and waking, and it hit me:
True confidence is the total freedom to be you.
I’m so glad I always keep a notebook by my bed because lots of other clear insights came to me and I was able to write them all down:
Relaxed self-expression, open and free
Decisions, actions, movements without hesitation or questioning
Unafraid, unabashed, unfiltered
Loud and clear. Not needing permission from anyone
Total inner knowing
No need for approval from other people
Approving myself first and only
I realized that I approach many of the things I do in life with a lot of hesitation, questioning, doubting, and wondering if what I’m doing is good enough. Somewhere along the way, I picked up this habit, but now that I’m aware of it, and now that I have this empowering new understanding, I can make a new choice. I can choose to fully be me, loud and clear, proud and filled with joy and appreciation for who I am and for the privilege of living this amazing, mysterious, miraculous life!
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